Preventing a Bridezilla
- by Heather Craven on Aug 27th 2007 6:30PM
- Filed under miscellaneous, organization and storage, wedding
There are few things as stressful as planning a big wedding. With so many details and so many egos, feelings often get trampled and resentments easily arise. One of the most likely individuals to reach an emotional boiling point during wedding planning is the bride. So often a blushing bride turns into a ranting, raving woman desperate to get every detail perfect for her special day. Somewhere during the planning process she becomes a Bridezilla; a woman who many fear and go to great lengths to avoid.So how can you stop from morphing into this angry woman? Below area few thoughts to keep in mind as you make plans for your special day. Keep in mind that they are not sure thing, but if followed they might bring you some peace during this hectic time.
- Give yourself a realistic timeline. You can't expect to pull off the gala of the year when you are inviting 300 people for an occasion two weeks away.
- Take time for yourself during the planning stages. Schedule in walks or a massage or an afternoon movie. You need time when you are not dwelling on menus and place settings.
- Hire a weeding planner if you can afford one. Interview several and choose one whose personality meshes nicely with yours.
- Choose a date and a gown that is realistic for your figure. If your wedding is two months and your gown is six sizes too small, chaos will ensue. If you want to be a smaller size, choose a date and a gown that will fit the real you when then time comes.
- Organize. Knowing your dates, deadlines and ideas are so very important.
- Enjoy! Remember this is your day. Everybody will have an opinion, but when it comes to the core of the day, it is all about you. Enjoy it.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
8-28-2007 @ 12:50AM
M.E. Williams said...
Heh heh heh. Hi, Heather! Awesome ideas. :) (Yes, everything I've ever read about weddings says to scrimp, borrow, cut the open bar, do whatever you can... to afford a wedding planner. Worth their weight in gold, but usually quite a lot cheaper.)
One more tip: it's just a day, it's just a party, it doesn't have to be "perfect," it just has to be fun and nice. Don't worry if everything goes according to the elaborate plan you made when you were ten years old, just try to have a good time.
I think too many Bridezillas are created just because they take that, "It's your day!" thing too much to heart. It's your day, but that means "you and your fiance," not "Your day to be the Queen of the Room." (Because, the thing is, unless relatives get out of hand, a bride doesn't have to work and exert control to be Queen of the Room - she already is!)
Then again, some people get tagged as "Bridezillas" just because they won't let either relatives or the wedding industry ride roughshod over them. For me, the signal moment isn't whether or not they have to be firm with a gown shop that is consistently not delivering as promised or reasonably expected, it's whether or not they get nasty with their attendants and fiance.
If the people around the bride still like her (at least, those who liked her before the whole wedding thing started up), and she hasn't screamed at the caterer for no good reason, she's probably doing OK.
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8-28-2007 @ 2:09AM
Steven Whitley said...
Bridezillas.... What does this have to do with DIY
Didn't take long for this site to Jump the Shark...
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8-29-2007 @ 10:18AM
Harlequin said...
Wait a minute!
The DIY advice is to hire a professional to do it for you?
Oops.
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8-29-2007 @ 5:47PM
M.E. Williams said...
Harlequin - it's a don't it yourself. Even with a pro to help set things up and keep things running smoothly on the day itself, a bride still has -a lot- to do to get ready for an average wedding. The choices themselves become stressful. (I don't personally advocate getting yourself in a position where you have to -make- choices between three different shades of purple tablecloth, but it does happen... some people have very detailed weddings.)
So yes, hiring a professional is the way to go if you possibly can. Not to mention that if you have a lot of relatives, it's nearly impossible to have a DIY wedding... those work best with 50 guests or less if formal, maybe more if totally informal.
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